Thursday, January 7, 2010

Something New

Having chosen "new" as my word for this year, my fertile imagination cast around for the amazing new things the Lord might possibly want to do in my life. I won't embarrass myself by going into detail; suffice it to say I always dream on a grand scale.

The Lord's dreams are invariably quite different from my own. I know His are better, and they usually involve a little serving of humble pie.

He began a little stirring in my heart concerning a new way of speaking. I sort of knew this was coming. For some reason taming my tongue has always been a bit of a challenge for me.

It is especially true in the midst of those "difficult" conversations (sometimes known as disagreements). So often I hear a gentle whisper, "Don't say what you're thinking right now. It is neither glorifying or edifying."

My usual response is to acknowledge the wisdom of this advice and then to stand back in absolute amazement as those very words come tripping lightly off my tongue. They have the predictable result, and I end up fervently wishing I had listened.

"Let's do it differently from now on," I hear Him say. "Let's break the old pattern and do it My way." Yes, it is time to do something new. The old way simply doesn't work. It ends in misunderstanding and hurt feelings, in time wasted in deafening silence.

I had a Pastor once who advised, "If it is not glorifying or edifying, don't say it." If I can simply take a moment to consider my words, I will either speak more wisely or simply say nothing at all.

I smiled sheepishly when I first read this verse:

"Even fools are thought wise when they keep silent; with their mouths shut, they seem intelligent."
Proverbs 17:28 (NLT)

And then there's:

" Watch your tongue and keep your mouth shut, and you will stay out of trouble."
Proverbs 21:23 (NLT)

I long to be a woman whose words are "... like honey, sweet to the soul and healthy for the body."
Proverbs 16:24(NLT)

I think that is a "new" thing to be excited about.



  1. I think that is a new thing to be excited about too!!!

  2. I cannot imagine you--of the sweet spirit--having difficulty taming your tongue.

    But we all do at times, don't we? I love your word. "New".

    Yes, that's what we are. In HIm.

  3. Oh I can so relate to this post! I so appreciated the verses you shared. I will be writing them on 3x5 cards to review on a regular basis. Goodness knows I need to!

  4. Linda, I think that is a marvelous new thing. Love what you said "Let's do it differently from now on..." Yeah, my ways are not the best in most cases either, so I have learned how to 'tame' my tongue by not saying anything and staying out of things.

    Thank you for sharing your honest heart.

  5. That is so wise!
    I have loved visiting Holy Experience as well.

  6. Hard to imagine that you would ever utter an unkind word. But oh how I know the power of the tongue. One thing I repeat to myself is that the relationship is more important than being right. Often, that helps me to keep quiet. Not always...but often. ;)

  7. funny,
    I can be silent around "others", and vicious with loved ones, who I assume will forgive.
    I have been making a huge effort to change this for a while now, and it has change the dynamics of our house.
    Blessings to you in this.
    It is hard to find the balance .

  8. Oh, my, we are indeed kindred spirits!

  9. I have the opposite problem...I don't speak out when having a disagreement and then get mad at myself for not saying anything! lol With His help I've no doubt that you will learn to hold your tongue a bit longer before you say anything that you'll regret:-) xoxo

  10. Oh, Linda... I think you wrote this just for me!! I can relate to your words on so many levels... thank you for your honesty, thank you for sharing your heart, thank you for keeping it real! I'm traveling the very same road this year... a *new* road... a better road... for the glory of our Father! Can't wait to read more~ you're a gift!

  11. Thanks for the good reminder....and don't you love it that His compassion is NEW every morning, even when we do BLOW it.

    My girls and I have been working on this for awhile now. One thing we are trying to cut back on is what we call: UC ~ unnecessary comments. You know the ones... they are cutting, sarcastic, hurtful,unedifying and just NOT necessary for one reason or another.

    When one of us makes a comment like that, we say: UC

    I think it is helping in taming the tongue...hopefully anyway!

    Keep up the great writing.

    Blessings to you and yours in the new year, Linda,


  12. Oh how many times I have wanted to stuff words back into my mouth after they have been spoken! I need that pause button to take a moment and think before I let those words out.

    Great post Linda!

  13. My verse is 'let your gentleness be evident to all' - a lifelong journey for me too - loving your willingness to be open here as I'm sure it's an encouragement to many beyond me.